REACTIONS TO OUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Updated: Oct 19, 2020
Did you know that it is our choice how we react to negative emotions?
We have all gone through situations that overcome us, situations that generate in us a sense of impotence that invades us. But do we have the ability to face them in a positive way? Or do we just react negatively? Generally, this type of situation generates in us a series of negative thoughts that do nothing more than feedback on our behavior.
In order to transform these negative thoughts into positive reactions and behaviors, we must try to identify and work with them to improve. So, when we have a negative thought usually it is accompanied by a change in our mood. The manifestations are diverse – we can be nervous, angry, even in some cases, anxious.
Our body also participates in our response – we shake, we sweat, and our heartbeat faster than usual.
When we face a situation that causes tension and discomfort, a series of negative thoughts often invade us. Often, these thoughts are accompanied by behaviors such as running away from the situation, shouting, or just being silent. You must begin to work with these thoughts. To control them in such a way that they do not generate in you those reactions and turn them into positives.
Take some time to think about the negative thoughts that come to you. Make a list of all of them, no matter how insignificant they may seem. Also, try to identify what are the feelings that each of them generates. Some may cause you sadness, some anger, or impotence. Try to differentiate each thought with its respective feeling.
Try to determine each situation that generated negative thinking. It is important to be able to differentiate the moments that trigger these types of thoughts. The problem is not what you were told or what happens, but the relationship you have with your life. It may happen that it reminds you of some stage in your life. Or that you consider that you are underestimated. Or that you don’t trust yourself. It is essential to try to detect the origin to be able to overcome it.
Replace them with positive thoughts and try to see reality from another perspective.
Most of our negative emotions are generated not by events, but by the meaning we give them. Since the way we think and interpret our reality are learned patterns of habit, it is something we can learn to control.
Focusing on solutions and possibilities, rather than on alarming or difficult aspects. Remember that the three enemies of positive realism with which you must fight are negative anticipation, victimhood, and the search for scapegoats. If you beat them you will save a lot of negative emotions in your life.
Eliminate the excessive need for approval, one of the largest free sources of negative emotions (anxiety, frustration, discouragement).
Remember if they become too much, please reach out to a coach or professional to help you overcome these issues.